My youngest said something to me today when we were looking at an old YT video (on a channel that I'm locked out of- grrr). She said, "Oh, Mommy! That's you? You used to be pretty!"
Right then it hit me: I haven't been underestimating the effects of my time spent in the dark valley. It's been five years but it looks like more. It feels like more. A lot more.
Stress can take its toll.
I knew it at the time. I could feel it. It may sound funny, but it was like I could feel it at a cellular level- it was effecting me, changing me from the inside.
What's the point, here? Whining? Maybe a little. I mean I earned a bit of a whimper at least, right? More so the point is, if you are walking through the valley- if you are in an emotional storm, or facing a heartbreaking life trial, please remember to take time to care of yourself and your broken heart.
Even when we are hurting, we can eat well (may not a lot, but well); we can sleep as much as possible; we can exercise; we can refrain from unhealthy coping mechanisms. We can take vitamins, drink plenty of water and seek out excellent counseling from a qualified professional.
I'll admit, I did only a few of these. Most days it was only "breathe in, breathe out... survive." Perhaps the results would have been lessened had I taken the advice of my own profession. So, let me end with this fun and oh, so wise saying: Do as I say, not as I do!!
Guard your heart (and your face), my friends, - M
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Hi! My name is Melinda. I'm a saved-by-grace-er, lifelong learner, INFJ, health & fitness trynabe, Mom, #vanlifer, mental health vlogger, and Director & Clinical Supervisor at a Child & Family Therapy Practice in Northern California.
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