The Crazy Therapist
Ever wonder why therapists have a reputation for being bat crap crazy, messed up or otherwise dysfunctional? As a (questionably “crazy”) therapist myself, I can answer that.
Therapists frequently became therapists because of some sort of childhood trauma, family of origin dysfunction, or other unpleasant human experience. Our pain, our need to understand (and maybe even “cure”) ourselves and/or those who have hurt us, leads us into the profession.
Sometimes, these hurting people who enter into the helping profession have not adequately addressed their own issues. This can cause some countertransference, projection from the therapist onto the client, and/or a host of other unhelpful (or sometimes, unfortunately, hurtful) interactions.
Conversely, the therapist could have actually worked through his or her own junk, found healing, and gained confidence in his or her abilities and techniques, thereby using more bold and creative methods of helping each family or individual to achieve treatment goals. These “outside the box” methods may appear, on the surface, as weird, unconventional, or even “crazy.” But, when done right, they work.
So, which kind of “crazy” is your therapist?
10/24/2017 06:04:19 pm
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9/1/2019 09:07:16 pm
I was dating a mental health therapist for 4 months. I felt emotionally abused through him and he claimed he had high “demands”. I really liked him and so did he, and recently broke up with him. But for some reason he over thinks way too much then he should. It felt like he kept finding reasons why this wouldn’t work out. Me and him weren’t exclusive because of his preference. Since he have high demands, is there any way he may reconsider this and give us another try? He seems like someone with super-ego.
9/2/2019 07:17:47 pm
Hi Maha, My question to you is why do you want to go back to him? I know there is a strong pull to be attracted to people who act like they have it all together or who act demanding as if they know the answers to everything. However, you state that you felt abused. Just because he is a counselor doesn't mean he is free from the plagues of being human... abuse, mental health issues, addiction, unhealthy boundaries, etc. Work on you and decide what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship! Much peace and blessings to you, my friend.
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Hi! My name is Melinda. I'm a saved-by-grace-er, lifelong learner, INFJ, health & fitness trynabe, Mom, #vanlifer, mental health vlogger, and Director & Clinical Supervisor at a Child & Family Therapy Practice in Northern California.
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