I hear so much about revenge and "destroying the narcissist." I get it- Partners get hurt by insensitive and selfish behavior. But, I’m wondering if this is why we’ve seen such a spike in narcissistic behavior lately? Are we part of the problem?
We – the non-narcissists- the 'victims' of 'narcissistic abuse'- are escalating the situation by triggering more narcissistic behavior from the narcissist. When we do hurtful things (regardless of what was done to us), we are sending a message that relationships aren't safe and people can't be trusted- and thereby validate the Narcissist's attitude and behaviors!
It's a vicious cycle.
Not only that, when we purposefully seek revenge, we are 'stooping to their level' as the saying goes. No- actually we are worse because we are doing it on purpose. They are doing it because of a brain issue or unresolved trauma- or both. So, who really has the problem here?
Shouldn't we, the more emotionally mature and aware should be doing something different? I mean, we want different, right? We want out of the toxic dance.
Let's sit this one out.
Dance the happy dance, my friends- M
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The Motley Ms.
Hi! My name is Melinda (or Mel, if you like). I'm a saved-by-grace-er, lifelong learner, INFJ, health & fitness trynabe, Mom, mental health vlogger (hey! go subscribe!!) and Child & Family Therapist - not necessarily in that order (well, except the first one). If you want to see my business-y side, check out my super-professional business website.
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