Here's the thing... That question: "Why?" is a dangerous one. What answer are you looking for? Something that makes you say, "Oh! Well, that makes sense!" Will there ever be a "why" that justifies the 'what'? Will knowing why lead to more questions, guilt, or the dreaded, endless "what ifs"?
As a therapist, I believe it is far more therapeutic to avoid painful searches to hypothetical answers. We can't explain the unexplainable - and attempting to do so can lengthen the healing process and even cause further trauma.
If this has happened to you, I am sorry. My heart hurts with you. It was wrong. It wasn't fair. And there is no excuse. There is no 'why.' #metoo
Much love my friends, M
sexual abuse recovery, healing from assault
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