Ever meet one of those couples? You know, one of them is outgoing / charming/ nice/ jovial / great. And the other is, well not-so-much. Grumpy is angry / unfriendly / distant/ aloof. You might have thought “What is Charming doing with Grumpy?” or “How in the heck did Grumpy land such a great catch?!”
Well, did you ever consider that things are not always as they appear? We truly never know what goes on behind closed doors. And this is often the case in the Charming – Grumpy relationship. But, not in the way you might expect.
You see, it is completely possible that Grumpy just experienced another one of Charming’s long hysterical, angry tirades, or caught Charming in yet another lie. Maybe Charming just depleted the couple’s bank account, or has pushed Grumpy close to the edge of sanity because of that issue. Maybe Grumpy is thinking “Why can’t you act this nice at home?” or “I wish I could call you out on all of your bs.”
Why Grumpy stays with Charming is a complicated matter, too lengthy to discuss in this post. But, let’s just say, Grumpy may not be that grumpy, after all. Grumpy just might be tired, worn out, at his or her wit’s end, hopeless and fed up. Charming, likewise, is probably anything but.
The next time you see a Charming-Grumpy mix, try to tame your initial judgments. There might be more to the scene than you realize.
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Hi! My name is Melinda. I'm a saved-by-grace-er, lifelong learner, INFJ, health & fitness trynabe, Mom, #vanlifer, mental health vlogger, and Director & Clinical Supervisor at a Child & Family Therapy Practice in Northern California.
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