You would think this topic had been sufficiently re-hashed in Christ-believing circles by now, but sadly, no. I am still confronted with supposed Christians who defend these so called ‘preachers.’ (btw, “I like him/her” is not a good biblical defense.) This should make us wonder about deception, right? Because, after all, the problem with being deceived is, you're deceived.
To be clear, I’m speaking of any pastor, teacher or preacher who claims health, wealth and prosperity; “name it and claim it;” or any version of Word of Faith in relation to our success on this earth. Currently, the popular ones are Joyce Meyer, Joel Osteen, Paul Crouch, and so forth. You can usually find them on TBN. And, you can usually find them declaring things into the atmosphere and asking for "seed money." You know the stuff Jesus did all the time.
Let’s discuss how dangerous this false ‘gospel’ is:
All of this is said with the knowledge that no one can come to the Father unless He draws him or her. Perhaps He will not draw those who are already fully convinced that they have already found their “truth” in the prosperity “gospel”? It’s not for me to know.
What I do know is that He desires people to worship Him in spirit and in Truth and if we draw near to God, He will draw near to us.
Don’t take my word for it. Please, ask God for wisdom and discernment.
Be blessed with spiritual blessings, my friend.
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Words of War
As a therapist, I am well versed on concepts like the self-fulfilling prophecy (see The Pygmalion Effect and Golem Effect). For those of you who don’t know, it’s basically when someone says something untrue about someone (or a group of someones), then due to the power of influence, that prediction comes true.
A common example is a child who grows up hearing they are stupid, incapable, etc. While this is not true, the fact that the child has been exposed to others who say or believe this to be true influences how the child feels about him- or herself. Eventually, the child begins acting as if the words were true, thereby fulfilling the ‘prophecy.’
Or, take a spouse who leans toward the suspicious side and who is always accusing his or her partner of cheating. The innocent spouse may eventually tire of the false accusations and begin to think, “Well, if I’m going to be accused of it, I might as well do it!”
We can see this played out in a variety of life situations- both in the negative and positive realms. If your boss tells you that you are a high performer and a great leader, you are going to perform and lead better. You get the idea.
My concern, and reason for bringing this up, is the current state of society. With all the mud-slinging and name calling going on (on both sides of the political fence), I’m afraid that both sides will engage in a form of self-fulfilling prophesy, albeit in a tit-for-tat, escalating manner. Now, if you stop and think for a minute, if all of the awful stereotypes were to actually come true for both sides, we would all be in some serious trouble.
What can be done? We all need to take individual responsibility to 1) not promote gossip, hate or malice (ignore when possible), 2) spread kindness and love any chance we get and 3) pray for wisdom.
If we speak positive words into others - to calm fears, to promote unity- we can turn this budding race war around. We can be a catalyst for positive change. It just takes a little self-fulling prophecy in action.
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. (Proverbs 18:21)
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Initial Shock of Loss
Loved ones. Innocence. Hope. Stability. A planned future.
The ground disappears beneath your feet. Life is forever changed. It has to be a nightmare, but no, it is real. You are here, shattered in a million pieces, trying to find… anything at all.
The initial stage of healing from loss involves a weird, ugly fog for those who are left in the aftermath. You feel numb, tired, and/or in a daze.
People in the fog sometimes wonder, “Why aren’t I taking this harder?” Or, they might say things like “This can’t be real,” or “It hasn’t sunk in yet.”
This is our natural psychological defense kicking in to protect us, much like a circuit breaker protects your home from unsafe surges of electricity. “Grief brain” is a term used to describe the spacy- forgetful-clumsiness that accompanies the fog.
If you have recently experienced the death of a loved one, you might hear his voice, see her driving around town. You might have realistic dreams- if you can sleep at all.
This combination of experiences can make grievers feel as if they are going crazy. They are not. This is part of the normal healing process. I encourage you to journal. You likely won’t remember many details of these days, and having a record may help you along future stages of this grieving / healing process.
There is a saying in the recovery world : You have to feel it to heal it. This is true for all areas of life. There is no easy way out. You have to go through it. Grab a friend's hand and take a deep breath. This is going to be possibly the hardest thing you've ever done. but you can do it. You can heal.
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Hi! My name is Melinda. I'm a saved-by-grace-er, lifelong learner, INFJ, health & fitness trynabe, Mom, #vanlifer, mental health vlogger, and Director & Clinical Supervisor at a Child & Family Therapy Practice in Northern California.
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