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The Uneaten Meal

5/27/2017

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A large company hosted a luncheon for its employees.  They hired the best caterers in town and had a huge feast.  All employees were allowed come back for seconds and thirds.  They even got take-home baggies! 
 
Several of the employees were enjoying their meals and talking about how fortunate they were to be fed so well by such a kind employer when they noticed a few other employees sitting against the wall.  One was eating an old crusty tuna sandwich.  The other two just looked sad and pitiful.
 
The first group of employees called over, “Hey, aren’t you guys going to eat?  There’s plenty for everyone!”
 
The hungry employees just sighed and complained about how long the line was, that they had food allergies, or that they weren’t sure if they’d like the food that was brought in.  One of them got angry and told the others just to mind their own business.
 
This is how it is with believers- some are partaking in all that God has to offer and others are just sitting on the sidelines, complaining, hurting, and suffering- missing out, by their own design, on what has already been given to them.
 
I’m not saying that Kingdom living on this earth is pain-free or perfect- that won’t happen until we meet Jesus in His glory.  However, we do have access into victorious living!
 
We’ve been given a feast of Truth (John 14:6), righteousness (Rom. 6:18), grace (Titus 3:7) and spiritual fruit (Gal. 5:22-23).  We have been given spiritual gifts (1 Cor. 12:4-11), the keys to the Kingdom (Mat. 16:19) and authority over the enemy (Luke 10:19). Not only that, but we are more than conquerors (Rom. 8:37) and have access to an abundant life (John 10:10).
 
Are you sitting against the cafeteria wall, tired, grouchy and hungry?  Fill up your plate and taste and see that the Lord is good (Psalm 34:8)!
 
 
Additional Scripture studies:
 
Refuse to eat (John 5:39-40)
 
Eat and be satisfied (Mark 6:30-44)
 
Spiritual food and drink (1 Cor. 10:3-4)
 
Victory in Christ (1 Cor. 15: 57)
 

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Fan Girl in the Hood

5/11/2017

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Question: How did I go from being a white suburban soccer mom to fan girling on an ex-Blood?

Answer: TRUTH

This bruh’s preaching on point and his rapping aiight, too.  Don’t get it twisted: I still love Lecrae, but Sevin on a whole ‘nutha level.

Whew. That paragraph hurt my brain.  It’s no secret I’m more Valley than Hood, but real is real. Sevin exudes real.  After a life of abuse, gang-banging, homelessness and depression, Sevin gave his life to Christ (hear his testimony here).  And the rest, they say, is history. 

He’s been preaching the gospel with his homies Bizzle, Iamwordsmith, Datin, and IllumiNATE (to name a few) via missionary work in US neighborhoods for years.  Why did it take me so long to hear him?! (Oh, soccer mom; that’s right.) Anyway, his backstory combined with his talent has me hooked and now I’m “getting outside” more.
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Side note:  This t-shirt is about something Irish, but I thought it was kinda funny. 

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​Sevin photo credit: www.godovermoney.com
Sevin's page: www.HogMob.com
​T-shirt photo credit: Sunfrog.com

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Healing From an Abusive Relationship

5/10/2017

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The Path to Integrated Healing

The damage caused by domestic violence affects a woman’s physical, spiritual, mental and emotional wellbeing.  Therefore, the healing process should address all of these areas, both individually and holistically.
 
Physical Wellbeing
 
Your tangible human body needs health, vitality and protection from harm in order to thrive.  This is obtained through a variety of circumstances and lifestyle choices.  The most obvious is remaining free from an abusive relationship.
 
Safety, shelter, food and water are all basic essentials that need to be present in order for you to proceed to higher levels of self-awareness and self-fulfillment.  However, just having your basic needs met is not enough. 
 
In order to rise above the minimum standard for life- just getting by- you must reach for a higher level of physical wellbeing.  This is obtained through physical activity, proper diet and adequate rest.
 
Improving your physical wellbeing will bring you many rewards. You will feel better, look better, have increased confidence, a clear mind, lowered stress, increased stamina and improved mental functioning.  Of course, this is just a sample of the many benefits obtained through physical wellbeing. 
 
Visit the LifeStyle Health and Fitness section for more information on this topic and for lots of helpful tips on becoming and staying fit.
 
Spiritual Wellbeing
 
Spiritual Wellbeing is promoted through study, prayer, inner reflection and times of silence.  Get in touch with your spiritual side.  It is there where you will find inner peace, joy, beauty and strength that you never knew existed.  You may attend church, study in the privacy of your home, listen to worship music or spend time with others.
 
Time spent seeking your Creator is priceless.  You will learn how to love and how to be loved because you will know Love.  You will find the answers to your problems and relief from your pain.  You will learn who you and Whose you are, and you will find your purpose for being.
 
Don’t know how to start?  Find a quiet place where you can be alone.  Ask God to show Himself to you in a way you will understand.  And then, just be still.  Be silent.  Wait.  Listen.  He will meet you there.
 
Mental Wellbeing
 
It is simply not enough to be away from abuse in order to achieve mental wellbeing.  Take a look at yourself.  Are there addictions you need to overcome?  Bad habits you need to break?  Problems with procrastination, laziness or other life issue? 
 
What do you know about relationships?  Domestic violence?  Money?  Politics? Current affairs?  If you were to take a test on any of these subjects, do you think you would pass?
 
You must stretch your mind! Give it a workout.  Keep your mind active and alert.  Read.  Study.  Learn.
 
Emotional Wellbeing
 
Are you “in touch” with yourself and your feelings?  Can you identify, acknowledge and accept the multitude of feelings that you experience every day?  Do you feel grounded and steady emotionally or are you prone to irrational mood swings and erratic reactions?
 
The first step in achieving emotional wellbeing is to work through all the junk and get rid of all the baggage. Journaling, counseling and building a good support network are all important aspects of this process.
 
In addition, you may want to take anger management or parenting classes; attend a motivational seminar; read healing/ recovery books; practice positive self-talk and focus on understanding your self-worth.
 
Each person’s growth toward emotional wellbeing is different.  Find what works for you and stick with it.  Remember, growth is a process.  Be patient with yourself and don’t give up!  You have what it takes to face and work through those issues that have been tying you down!
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